Need Encouragement part deux

[MrBond]

"Nothing worked during the sitch. I mean nothing."

"I just wondered if I had been more hard line whether or not she would have had second thoughts if her "plans" were really worth the sacrifices."

See so you really didn't try "everything".

"I tried not to be an AH and tried to protect my S12."

Nothing wrong with that. In fact, you treated your W with respect and it was a helluva example for your son. You should be proud.

"Perhaps she would have filed no matter what."

Yep. Sometimes the WAS just feels the need to do this. Nothing wrong with your approach. No one can ever control another person's actions. You can influence them, but not control.

I was as Robx said "melty man."

Don't ever think that. There were a a number of people who I saw follow Rob's and other's advice to take the hardline and in the end, what I saw were a bunch of men and women who ended up hating their spouses. They never dealt with the issues and tried to understand the spouse. Instead they said, "well if you don't want me, then f@ck you then". Alot of bitter people there.

But no matter what, it does come down to choices. Yours and your wife's.