I dropped by the boards to check in on my DB friends. How are things going, RSGG?
To address some of your questions from your last post.... Does DB'ing mean your marriage will be saved? Not necessarily. Is there still hope for your marriage? ABSOLUTELY. I think your H is still invested in your marriage, even if it appears to you he has checked out. Look at my case...my H sat me down last April, looked me straight in the eye with NO emotion registering on his face whatsoever and told me he didn't love me, he was seeking a divorce and there was absolutely nothing I can do to change that fact. This was the 3rd time he took me down that road, RSGG. I started out with the same old, same old behaviors and once again, they failed me. We got to the point of him moving out, filing for divorce, me hiring a lawyer, etc. Things finally turned around when I stopped focusing on getting him back and started focusing on making ME better. It's been a long, tough road, but for the first time in a very long time, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Please do your best to detach and work on YOUR goals. I can't stress it enough. Make you better for YOU. Hopefully, your H will wise up to what he's missing out on in you before it's too late. If he doesn't and you do end up getting divorced, well...look how much better you will be for what comes along next in your life.
Know that I'm thinking of you and hoping for the very best in your situation. Update when you can! lc4
