Wow, DC, that was a great post. When you had your great awakening to admit you are an alcoholic, was something. It's so hard to admit something like that, especially to yourself. I am proud of you for being sober for this long!!
With your W seeing you working so hard on yourself, she is intrigued by it. She seems to want all the details of your new life. If she is feeling sad about the future, then she just has to feel it. You are going forward with taking care of yourself and your kids, getting a new place to live, being involved in their day to day lives, and otherwise becoming the person you were meant to be.
It's funny, though, that in the midst of this, I still see a lot of positives in your situation with your W. It's obvious she still loves you, and cares for you. She is doing like a lot of them (spouses)do by bringing up the past hurts over and over again even though you have said your were sorry, and are working on it. My H did the same thing. I can't tell you how many times I had to hear him say the same things over and over again. It took some time before he felt that part of our lives was over, and we had a new R.
