Thought it would be done by now...part 3

[25yearsmlc]

Update: if anyone still here. I either blew it or I changed it up.
I have the for a good 4 months with the excelption of a few slips spared my H and of my pain or anger.
Well, that changed yesterday. He didn't hear any of the anger really but mostly just my hurt. And probably some of the hurt I have taken on for the kids. I know that is a not recommended in DBing but I also know it wasn't getting me closer to my goal by keeping it in. So, it came out. Not sure I intended for it to but it did.
I am no longer that "light house".
But, when does he ever get to see our/my pain? I feel like I have protected him/sheltered him from any consequences of his actions.

yes you have.


So, bring it on. Have I pushed him further away? Cemented his choices?

Pushed him further? How far can he go since he's already living with OW? cement his choices?

Why do you see ANY relationship between your words/actions and his?

How could his behavior be worse? I'm serious. I guess he could refuse your calls? So far he doesn't intitate them. HE could do what else? Live with an OW? Oh he already does. Fight the divorce? No he's just fighting the money...

HIs choices have been to eat cake and hope you suck it up financially as long as he can keep you from wanting more.

ONLY When you talk money, he shows up and cries and says "too bad I'm so bad you can't/won't forgive me (completely) b/c I'm so miserable...BUT I gotta go now, I miss OW and booze more than anything/anyone else - or at least more than I relish the idea of WORKING at a m...

too hard for ME... but um... SHE is a mistake and I DO miss you guys...(gee I sure hope those are enough scraps for you to hold off on filing...) Okay so... LATER....maybe..."



But, could really anything I say or do change his mind?

The ONLY thing he's even bothered to react to, that I recall, is you filing...

I'm sorry but you are staying in Stuckville too long; population you...

Move forward. Your h isn't the type to change fast, that's for sure.

It'll be awhile before he turns this around if and when he can or wants to enough or will.

Live your life, please. I don't know how many other ways to say this Life.

Please go back and read the previous posts.

Good luck


((( )))