Tele:
I am moving forward with D proceedings with my W. We are going to file jointly and go for an uncontested D. In my case, this is a box she has to check off on her to-do list. Leaving this town was the first box, D is the second. She is very firm on the D. It is her way of sorting out her life.

The D is just a piece of paper. You are the one who has said it ain't over til its over. My W has a very long road ahead of her AFTER the D is final. I have no idea where that road will take her, and neither does she. I am keeping the road back paved and smooth, but am attempting to abandon any hope or expectation.

Having said that, I agree with JB. If you are absolutely certain that there can be no trust, respect or love, the pull teh plug and move forward. It is your choice. Just make damn sure you know. You have been on this board for a long time, as have I, and the ups and downs are very hard to take. Be strong.

H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012