Yes to what DG said here: "Going against what feels natural is so hard to do at first, especially when the last thing you want to do is make them think that we don't care."

I remember, Val, you posted your thoughts on this several times. I struggle with this daily. I want W to know I still love her and want R. BUT I know for her to want to be with me, I have to show her I will be ok without her. My mind reels. Val, you have done such a great job with the situation you are in. You express your emotions in a way I can only aspire to. I, for one, have great respect for your strength. (((((((())))))))


Me (f): 45
W(f) 35
T: 13 y
C: S4 adopted at birth
6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up
8-28-11 OW confirmed