What was I an idiot? Of course there's an OM...

[workinghardguy]

Hey 2TP... I don't know what's up with that. I mean, granted, she's got a lot of friends with husbands who have issues... ok, not that I don't but I'm not beating anyone, cheating on her, have a secret wife, I do housework and domestic stuff, I don't hit the kids. Ok.. granted, all of those seem fairly "lowest common denominator" things, but still

I try not to see it as something positive... don't want to raise false hope. I actually think sometimes she may be baiting me, perhaps even subconsciously. Waiting for me to say, "see? For gravy's sake, I'm not like those guys!" Which would of course immediately invalidate her concerns and issues and tell her that I'm not really committed to changing me. Or that she should "settle" for me as her friends have settled for their deadbeat husbands.

So I just leave it alone because I don't what to do with it. I just stay present in the conversation, offer some thoughts, ask her how she feels about it, and listen.