What was I an idiot? Of course there's an OM...

[workinghardguy]

And my journal for today... a good day I guess. I posted already about the morning and creating my boundary with her.

One odd moment this morning was my W being in the back bathroom getting her makeup on. I tell her I'm leaving for work and she calls me back asking if I want my two pens I accidentally left in there. They're nice pens and my W has a pen fetish. We joke about the danger of leaving a nice pen around her. She complains that she just lost her last Dr. Grip pen because a co-worker stole it and wouldn't admit it. I ask her if she wants one.. I have plenty more at the office... she smiles and says sure and thanks. Not sure I should've done that; man it's hard not to fall into old ways.

It was her day off and didn't hear from her most of the day.

Then a little after lunch I get an email from our local clinic that an appointment had been made for our S to see a doctor (he woke me up at 2:30am with ear pain). I was sort of miffed that she was taking him to the doctor and didn't tell me, but I calmed down and chalked it up to having to get kids from school due to the half day or just being cold or whatever. So I called her to find out what was wrong. Nothing major just that S was showing more ear infection symptoms. Ok.

Later I get text msg from W confirming that its an ear infection. I text her back asking if she thinks he can go to school tomorrow. We have an all day in-service that I could miss but need to tell people (in fact, I would love to miss ). I wait... I wait... I wait... 30 minutes go by, no answer. I text again and wait... and wait... what the heck. So I go to call her and see that for whatever reason text messaging isn't working. Glad I checked that before calling her all ticked off.

Planned the call to be a quick question, but she then proceeds to talk for about 10 minutes about the pharmacy and the doctor visit. Telling me funny stories about both. After listening and sharing I end the call which I was proud of.

Get home and we share some more stories. I snuggle with the sick S while W watches us. We play some Go Fish, my S's favorite card game (and only card game) I get up and go to get dinner put out (crockpot night). W follows me and starts talking about the drama with her friend that I mentioned before. It's a really long story, but the short version is that her friend is engaged to an Army officer. A few days ago her friend got a phone call from the officer's wife in California asking who she was and why she had a phone on their family plan. Her friend believed the officer was divorced and had even seen divorce papers (apparently faked). There's more, but that's the essence.

My W is obviously incensed by this man's behavior... I stay engaged and empathize, another 180 for me. It really wasn't that hard as I was pretty disgusted by the guy too. It's now the third or fourth story in as many days about wives with really terrible, horrible husbands/boyfriends/fiancees. Each time I stay engaged, but in the back of my mind think "WTF?????"

We shared some more stories and then she left for the night to go to the city and get a wax job done by her friend. She's off tomorrow so I imagine they'll go get a drink after the wax job and I won't see her until the morning.

She did call though tonight to talk to SS, SD, and S. SS and SD were with their dad so got home after she left. She didn't stay on the phone to talk with me which was expected. I did find it very interesting though that she called, especially since this past weekend I told her that her going out for fun and not communicating with the kids really bothers me and isn't good for them. I didn't text her a thanks or anything, just left it be. No idea if it was due to our talk or not, but it was nice to see.