What was I an idiot? Of course there's an OM...

[workinghardguy]

Oh I know she will, in fact she has a cycle of being nice one day and the frigid the next almost like she's compensating. I probably should've provided a little more info...

So between the bomb drop and when she caught me logging into her Facebook page, I was doing a 180 of asking her about her day when she got home from work and then staying 100% engaged during the conversation. Most days it went well and we had long talks, longer than in our past. She was also working 7:30-4, five days a week. We live together still, share a bed, and generally get along well.

Then the Facebook fiasco happened and I got the roommate speech about a week later. During that period I kept trying the talk about her day 180 but was getting two word responses and frigid reactions. Clearly she didn't want to talk so I dropped it and stopped. I let her be in silence except for a hello.

So things have thawed a bit since then... sort of, though now we've talked about actually splitting up which we hadn't before though it was always clearly implied.

So tonight's comment and non-verbals made me wonder if she is missing the 180 I was doing. She clearly enjoyed telling me about her day and I found that I actually enjoyed her stories

My gut says to maybe try the experiment once or twice and see what happens. If she shuts down, ok, don't go there anymore.