I have always been the super independent one, so my changes are different. Its nice though to be asked that question as it makes one dig deep and realize things that you don't think about. Mine are - starting with the changes that are within me, in my heart and mind:
1. I learned patience, lost some of my impulsivity, learned to be quiet when waiting.I have learned to listen more instead of planning what I am going to say when someone else is talking to me.
2. I learned to think before opening my mouth to say something.
3. I have tamed my anger somewhat, or at least learned not to react to the first burst of anger that I feel when encountering a provoking situation - I count to 10, 20 or even 100 before saying something in anger. I also have taken out the resentment, and the revengeful plotting and planning that I used to do.
4. Learning to let go - this is a big one , and definitely I am just in the learning curve of it. But I already have learned to not mind small things, have thought about what really means to me, prioritizing, looking more into myself and less into the people around me and what they are doing.
5. I value family more than my work and career. BUt I also have learned to focus more in my career and am starting to look at pathways for me to go back to doing what I really love (not what I am doing right now, although this isn't too bad!)
6. I have learned that everything does not have to be rqually shared, fairness is not a word that one uses when talking about love and family.
7. I have learned what love is, what unconditional love is.\
8. I understand now in many ways what the sacramental nature of marriage is, the importance of our vows, what it means to be a Godly wife. Still learing.
Of course for all of these items, I feel like I am in various stages of learning.... a work in progress, like all of you say. In my next post I will think about how these changes within me are affecting my outward behaviour.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go