Saving the M and caring for a baby

[25yearsmlc]

"he's the WAS not you..."

is he still? i think the dynamic has changed and now she's the WAS.

had you said "he was the WAS now you're the WAS..." i would agree without reservation, and think you're Dr Seuss.

Okay point taken Ken. True. HE Probably sees himself as the LBSer now. I get that.

put yourself in his head, and he's hearing all the things many of our WASs have said

"i love you but cant live with you"
"i want this to work but cant do it right now"
"its only temporary"
"i'm moving out only because i need space"
"i'll come back"

all textbook WAS phrases.

its only because we believe DueinMay's words that we choose not to see this.

so far I'm with you....mostly

if he was here, telling us his story from the past 2 months, we'd tell him to DB, GAL, she has OM, etc. and this includes not saying ILY and not initiating ML.

Now I'd part ways with this. I'd ask him what SHE SAID the problems were and I suspect we'd all help him see HIS role in this.

and it wouldnt surprise me one bit if she did become an actual WAS. i think she's already on her way to becoming one.

Hope not. But it's always possible with LBSers who grow a lot and get on their feet and stare, objectively at the poop they were put through.

Sometimes they don't want to risk their hard earned gains to go back to crazy land.

But I have a lot of hope for May b/c i think once upon a time they had a strong sounding marriage.

I think they'd both like to go back to it, with a new attitude. They are trying to find their way to that place...I think.

On the whole, they sound like fundamentally healthy, smart, good hearted and loving people.

Given that, and their past m being a good one, (once upon a time) they have a good shot at this.

((( )))