I'm still hearing "I tried that fad diet and didn't lose a pound." Lifestyle changes are permanent, not something you "try" at.
You need to state clearly what your goal is. It doesn't and shouldn't involve anyone but you. What is your goal?
Break that "elephant" goal down into bite sized chunks. Quit saying "That elephant's too big." and "I tried using a rope on that elephant before." Do you know how old cowboys used to train wild horses? Look it up. It took time and patience.
Quit with the defeatest, "done it all attitude" since it's really not getting you anywhere. Quit grubbing in the past like a pig wallowing in the mud. Do you really like your life so much that you want it to continue as it is? If so, then great! You have no need to change. If not? What then?
What is your goal? You can't get anywhere without one, it's just you meandering through life or stuck waiting for the world to change around you or for your wife to finally "get it". She won't.
Again, for things to change for you, you have to change. What is your goal?
