Keeping hope alive - Ctflor Part ll

[angel61]

CTflor, sounds like good news to me. True, its is hard to really believe in what the MLC'er says, but in your case, it seems like your H is quite consistent.

Its true though that staying in the M and making it work does not necessarily go hand in hand. In my case, my H is still fighting the feeling of wanting to be free as well, but he has told me he is staying, because for one, he knows that he cannot just throw away his life with us, his family, everything that he ever valued in the past. I believe his values, his beliefs, his sense of obligation is making him stay. As for his feelings, it is still zilch, we don't even ML, and he actually feels so hopeless in that sense, verbalizing to me that he does not know how he, or actually we, can stand being in this situation forever. This is the part where I think that DBing will come in -working on making myself the woman he fell for. Otherwaise, I am just glad in a way that he is still here, but on the other hand, wonder if the sitch would resolve itself faster if he left....

There are many corners in this kind of sitch..... it does not mean to say that they turn a corner and then everything falls into place.

Piecing officially starts when both parties have agreed to make it work, to work hard for the M, to try to restore it.

For me, I think it is better to wait for him to take the lead on piecing, in the meanwhile keep on DBing and act as if.