Living in the trenches....Thread #5

[MrBond]

"I understand that something's bothering you and I'm here to listen if you want to talk about it."

Then if she goes off on you for no reason, tell her.

"I understand that something's bothering you. However I am not a mind reader and would like to know what your thoughts are. I do not, however, appreciate being blamed or criticized for something that I do not know."

or flat out tell her that you don't appreciate being treated that way and that you ask her to treat you the same way you're treating her - with respect.

There's a reason I changed my name to Mr. Bond. When I stopped worrying if whether or not something I say will get my W mad, she started respecting me more. I started acting more like the man and not her pet.

You're in the Navy, you know what it's like to up the testosterone a little bit. Not like you're going to slap her, but start asserting your masculinity a little here. No one respects a guy they can walk all over.