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[workinghardguy]

Gunny, I echo Any's comments... just because she's gone doesn't mean it's over. It's over when you decide it's over and you no longer want to wait for her.

This past weekend when my W dropped the "by the end of June I want to be apart" mini-bomb she cited one of the reasons being she wanted to be done with "all of this" (meaning the stress and me working on our M while she isn't). I said nothing, but in my head thought... sweetie, it ain't over in June. This isn't over until I say it's over. Even if we're apart I will keep on DBing until I decide that I've done all I can and don't want to anymore.

Thinking and realizing that gave me some power back. It is what allowed me to keep my mouth shut and just validate her feelings and not fight about it.

Now I know that in my sitch we have children that will force us to engage almost daily in some fashion if we end up apart. But still, there will be times when she re-enters your life for a question, an issue, property issues, etc... That will be your chance for her to see the changes and if it's meant to be it will.