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[2thepoint]

Hey Gunny - I feel for you and your situation and share many of the same feelings. In your journaling you lay out a pretty comprehensive list of things you did, provided, didn't do etc.

What I am discovering is that while we think we are doing all the right things, our spouses often interpret things differently.

You say for example that you comforted her; but did you comfort her when she needed it most? You said that sometimes she was not your only priority. That's fine, but when it mattered to her, was she your priority? When you didn't listen to her, was it at a time when she really needed you to listen?

I'm not passing judgment, because I could say almost the exact same things about my self. I think that in successful marriages communication is so critical. And how we interpret communication is just as important. My W and I communicated but often not about the right things and when it was about the right things, were either of us really listening? I could say I heard my W, but did I really HEAR her?

Just some food for thought. Hang in there!