I know, right? It is just hilarious. 50 years old and 2 kids still in diapers. Love it! How awkward will it be when he has 5 year old kids and also has grand babies? He already looks like the grandfather now to his own little ones and when they are out together {the x, the wifey, the little ones, my daughter and son-in-law} people of course think that the little ones belong to my daughter and son-in-law. It is the logical way to think, right? Crazy!
As far as being a dad to our kids - it is hit and miss. He is often not there for either of them but especially for our son who has given the X the most grief. What did he really expect? The young man went off on his dad two weeks ago about how he doesn't listen, isn't supportive and how it has been that way since the divorce. The X tried his best to convince the kid that it wasn't so but I didn't raise any stupid kids. My fiancé is more of a dad to my son than his father and my son goes to him for support and advice first.
I have been to Alaska a number of times in the past few years and love it there. My fiancé has lived up there for over 20 years and is well established. I do have a few friends and acquaintances up there at this point. Lots to keep us busy with his church and our plans to turn his bach pad into our home and just getting to know Alaska. We already have a college football afternoon planned for next season with a couple of friends of ours that live just down the road. My team against his. Should be good fun!
We were hoping that he would move to CA where I have a home but that obviously isn't in the cards. The job market is just horrible and even more so for govt workers. So we changed our plans and are months away from finally being together. We will rent my house out for now because the loss I would take on a sale is just ridiculous. A property manager will take care of every thing for us so it should all work out just fine. He wants to keep the house so that in the future when we are too cold in Alaska we can play the snowbird game and come to CA for a while. Works for me.
I agree that newcomers that are not quite so new should be able to take a peek at the other side and realize that while yes, it is a horrible experience - people still come out on the other side happy and living life.
Those rare LBSer's who remain stuck never understood that to be successful you have to keep moving forward and live your life no matter what. Sad.
Happy Wednesday! ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
