That is good if your W is seeking help with what might be chronic depression. It certainly could help her.
Otherwise, you sound like you are taking a good look at you and how you can become a better person. That is awesome of course.
This is not a 2x4, but I did want to point out something I noticed in your post:
Originally Posted By: Snowman
I felt pretty good about the whole compromise and she ended up coming back early because her family thought it was more important to watch football then hang out with their mom before she moved away.
Just notice how this comes across. Of course, you are posting that here, so perhaps it is only an opinion you feel safe to vent here.
I would recommend trying very hard not to think this way. Yes, it's natural when we hurt to grasp negative opinions and make judgments because we hurt. It's a defense mechanism.
But do try to understand that its very possible that that family does not have the same moral compass as you do. Or perhaps you have the same moral compass, but are hurting right now so you're lashing out at things that you don't like in other people, because you do not like those things in yourself.
So like I said, not a 2x4, just an observation of things that an LBS does...
Rather than worrying about how others conduct their family dynamic, decide what you do and do not want in your nuclear family (you, the kids, your W) and stand firm on them. If your W was leaving, would you spend her last days here watching a football game, or would you make attempts at spending quality time with your S...? Or is there a difference...?
