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[learning2listen]

ok, to clarify.. I am to contact him? I am literally so confused. I feel as though I am playing a game I dont know the rules to?

I am reading the DR and the part I am not understanding and clearly the reason my h has such a hard time comeing to me is I see negative in everything. I get that. I am working on that, but quite honestly the rejection from him hurts so badly I want to crawl in a corner and suck my thumb!

So beings the visitation is not set in stone weekly (his work schedule varies) I simply asked him if he could firm it up with me instead of going through the kids, he is not following that. But I see the way I did it before was negative, I am trying to do it in a positive way..

I would love to think he is lonely and sad, that would mean he is feeling something other than the resentment and misery he stated he felt while at home, but how am I suppose to know he is or isnt? He does not want what we had, he said that, but he is not ready to call it quits either? He suggested lunch last week but it didnt happen and now we arent talking, but nothing really happened to stop talking other than I stopped contacting him, am I suppose to keep contacting him?