New here; husband left

[mishka422]

Glad you said it kml. I wanted to tell her that the A was a major possibility given his profession and the opportunity it provides. Badge bunnies are everywhere and they are predatory. Trust me, what she explained about his moods and behavior sounded identical to what my xh did. Cops have patterns that permeate the profession.

First, don't snoop. They are masters at hiding their activities anyway and it will only make you feel more desperate.

Second, although you are facing some physical challenges due the the RA, keep up the workouts. It is very helpful in clearing the mind.

Third, find a C that supports M, not one that will support you right into a D. That is hard to do, most just want to help you through your emotional struggle but not help you make positive changes toward saving a M.

Fourth, it's fall. Plan some fun activities with your son. Even at 12 months old they have fun picking out pumpkins (great color), apple orchards, festivals. It's a wonderful time of year to get out and do things together. Don't bother telling H what you are doing, trust me he doesn't want to know, but the activity will only serve to make you feel better and help on the road to GAL.

You are in a long haul. DBing is never over even if they come home. Even after D it is possible to come back together. I won't post it all here but I'm in the situation right now. Long, long story. Just know that we are all here to help, support, cry with you, whatever you need. This is a place of understanding.

Keep posting. Like it was said above, you will be moderated for a while until you get more posts under your belt so they won't show up immediately. Also, read other's posts and post to them. It will help people find you so they can help too.

Hugs!