Changes....What are Yours?

[AntoniaB]

Sunshine this is a great topic!

I have a lot of similar new things to you because I also had a ton of anxiety about similar things!

Here are my changes and self-improvements or things that I likely would not have ever done if I were still married:

1. Drive myself anywhere now, interstates, DC/Baltimore beltway, over the Bay Bridge
2. Go away overnight by myself to hotels/go to conferences where I have to present by myself
3. Still haven't flown yet, but I did tell a friend earlier tonight that I want to fly to England to meet the writer I'm writing a book on at some point if he will agree to meet me
4. Handle an acre property by myself for almost all things that need work (I drew the line at climbing 30 feet up a tree with a chainsaw)
5. Take care of a 31 year old home by myself
6. Take care of 10 cats without any help financially or emotionally
7. Take care of myself without any need for financial help, and took over the mortgage of my home entirely
8. Teach at least 2 extra classes a year (I once swore I'd never teach more than my contract stipulated) and learned how to teach online for extra income and professional development
9. Over halfway finished writing a book for publication
10. Taking meditation classes and consistently practicing Buddhist principles and applying them to becoming a better, more centered, less judgmental and less fearful/anxious person
12. Expanded my friend network by about double if not more...have a lot of new friends far and near, and cultivated much closer relationships with old friends
13. Go out to dinner or for drinks alone all the time
14. Go pretty much anywhere alone and it's just natural now where before it would have terrified me most times
15. Have a stronger relationship with my family, especially my sisters
16. Really feel like I can embrace and celebrate my accomplishments as opposed to push them under the rug with an "Oh it was nothing" attitude when it really was something...
17. Have a lot of concrete goals for the future and see a ton of possibilities for things I want to do
18. In short, I really feel ALIVE and VIBRANT

XH? I have no idea what he's doing/done, really. Not in contact much at all anymore. He's still with OW. I hope one day he realizes he has work to do like I did and he stops hiding from it. I hope something makes him wake up. He made me wake up. My life is better because of what I chose to do with that knowledge. I hope someday he has the guts and strength to do the same.

Looking forward to seeing other people's changes and accomplishments!!