Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[25yearsmlc]

Ironically,

tonight I met a woman who says her sister hasn't had sex for 3 years with her h. They sleep in separate rooms and it began, supposedly, b/c he snores and tjat drove her crazy. She went to the guest room first, to "get some sleep".

I THINK he felt rejected...but she complained that the bed in that guest room hurt her back so her h volunteered to take that bed...and then a few months passes and she said "hey you are always sleeping in that bed now and not in our bed.' To which the h said "You don't want me there b/c I snore too much" (Translate--you don't want me... and I'm hurt)

To HER, he had rejected HER by leaving the bed permanently...and to him HE had been rejected for a long time. While I can see this "Mexican Stand off" lasting maybe a week...but three years? 3 YEARS??

I am guessing her complaint about the bed being painful was a ploy for her h to do something about the snoring b/c she HAS complained about it before like she wants a surgical solution. Guess that doesn't have to happen now...

grow up. Someone, please, give in and go to the other...

25yearsmlc, I appreciate that you don't think all women should follow suit. And I appreciate you stating your opinions in any case and why you feel that way. I feel I'm learning something from the thoughts of various women, especially since my wife seems to be a little bit off the normal path in this regard.

Indeed, she might be disappointed with the sexual experiences she had with me.

You may want to assume that and tell her how bad it makes you feel. Let her reeassure YOU.

I've certainly asked her, and the only sexual complaint has been that I want it too often, or that I want it at all (in later years). She has never - not once - complained about my not touching her enough, etc. The only touching complaints have been to avoid her private areas, no exceptions.


Any explanation for that^^^, at all? That's pretty crucial to discuss....And do you talk about this in the heat of the moment while you feel rejected or have you had heart to heart "no pressure BUT we have to discuss this" ways?

Yes, she used to think I was a bit off base until we went to sex therapy, after which she seemed to complain less about my desire for a sexual relationship. She accepts it as normal, though she doesn't want to participate herself.

And yes, I have mentioned to her that if we keep up the way we have for the last decade, we'll never have sex. She lets the moment pass without comment.

What does she think will happen? nothing...


If I were to repeat the statement, she would say I'm pressuring her and that's not sexy.

so what IS sexy? To her? Please, God, tell us...