W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

I am aware of situational depression but my wife as exhibited depression for much longer than this situation even to the point where she was getting her self checked out as far as an endocrinologists and has exhibit signs previous to this situation. Her own counselor/psychologists referred her to a psychiatrist not me.

I'm not sure how her depression or other possible issues can affect her but people have noticed around her not just me. I'm not trying to pin depression on her because I'm trying to control or otherwise manipulate the situation. I do worry about her having an issue and hope she can get it addressed.

I do admit that I do have a control issue in our M but I have been working on that and not trying to direct things unless it affects our S. I think I was fairly nice about my Sunday situation and she recognized that. I'm concerned about the drive to San Francisco because that is an extremely long drive for anyone but especially for a 2 year old. I also just worry about her making it there as well. Not trying to control her but everyone had concern about the traveling.

I'm not sure the compromise was really a 180 because it is the 1st time it has happened in this situation as far as her asking to have my S on a day I'm suppose to have him. I felt pretty good about the whole compromise and she ended up coming back early because her family thought it was more important to watch football then hang out with their mom before she moved away.

I know my W probably thinks I was controlling which is why I have not been controlling unless it did affect our S. I don't think I should just roll over and be a door mat for everything either so I will share my opinion on some things.

Journaling,

My wife cancelled her San Francisco trip and is now going with a girlfriend somewhere much closer without my S so I get to keep him this whole week including the weekend. Our conversation was pleasant again and I have to say that I'm glad she is not dragging my son to San Fran by herself. My W was very appreciative of things and letting her take our S for extra time to do her now cancelled trip. We discussed halloween but didn't pin down a plan yet. She was willing to let my have our S without me even asking really. We will see what happens there.