What was I an idiot? Of course there's an OM...

[workinghardguy]

Journaling... Really a fairly low impact day I guess. W worked, I worked, kids had school. Didn't hear from her all day but that's become the norm. Had an after work function for work. Meant I didn't get home until almost 7:30. My mom picked kids up from school and stayed with them until W got home, then W had them.

I got home and W was in a foul mood. She said she's had the same headache for three days... admitting that it's probably from her neck being out of alignment from the partying this weekend. That's too bad. Found myself chuckling, quietly of course, because once I got home I found that kids still had homework undone, S's backpack hadn't been checked, SS needed stuff checked, SD needed stuff signed. So I had them collect all their stuff and go see mom. I had to change clothes after all and she's been home with them for three hours. I think that maybe made her grumpier At the same time I want her to realize exactly what the demands are.

Part of this is me detaching too... in the past I would've just fixed everything and said nothing because I didn't want her to feel bad that she missed so much. Now? Not my problem. She wants to participate then part of participating is doing it right or doing it again.

After that W went in the back room and practiced guitar then took a bath. I ran to the store. Unfortunately before I left I did offer to massage her back/neck if she wanted. She just looked so miserable and in the past I've been able to make it better. Her reply was "no, you don't have to do that." I did recover though as in the past I would've badgered her until she let me or got mad. Tonight, I just turned on my heel, said "ok, just offering" and walked out the door.

Got home from the store and she was still sick and in pain but talked to me. We chatted a bit and then I went downstairs to lift weights. Oddly enough she did come to the top of the stairs and tell me she was going to bed.

So after last night's fun watching house I expected today to be cold, which it was. But I think I did see some reaction to my 180s.