I fortunately have never met the OM - I've only seen one picture of him that my ex sent me before the you know what hit the fan. She wanted to show me the group of "friends" she was hanging out with while deployed over in the "danger zone." Real nice when I found out one of them was doing more than the foxhole trot with her.
Anyway, I really don't think about him anymore. It took me awhile, but I finally realized that the best I could ever hope for with my ex if we got back together was to be her second choice (since OM decided to just enjoy the sex and then return to his family.) I realized I didn't need to be anyone's second choice and that I deserve someone who wants me and only me.
