As for your H - I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but prepare yourself for the possibility that he may have had an affair (police officers have lOTS of opportunity due to their hours). This doesn't change anything about your approach - you still need to work on yourself, focus on being happy and productive (love that you're doing FPU btw), be the woman he fell in love with and will want to come home to. He may just have become overwhelmed with his job stress, your illness, and new baby (doesn't justify it if I am right, but does explain it).
