Hi Folks, I have been reading alot of the posts here and have just started with a DB counselor.
I have spent the past 10 months doing all the wrong things as I was completely unaware that my H is possibly going thru a MLC. I actually still feel that he may not be but just wants to not be married. There have been many ups and downs but his basic excuse is that he loves me but is not in love. He tells me he doesn't need any other excuse if he doesn't love me.
We have been living apart but in the same city since Nov. 2010. I was basically pushed out unexpectedly as we had made plans to move away together since both of us were unhappy with where we were living and our jobs. I left to visit family and received a call that he just can't move with me. I have been confused and feeling pretty low. I was able to leave my job on my own and move my things out and now I am staying with a friend...but my whole life is up in the air and I guess I have to say I was not ready for this.
As of now I am going dark and letting my H contact which has been all email, which he suggested. I have been agreeing etc. It is very hard for me because I constantly feel like I want to fight back but know from the past that it doesn't work.
I have only my sis, Mom, and 1 good friend that know what I am going thru and thought I should reach out to you all for some support as well.
The days are long...but I am hopeful things will get better.
