JB- I don't think there is anything wrong with finding your coworker attractive. I think it is a good thing actually, it's almost like your heart telling you that you can move on from this.
I agree, I don't think it should be something that is acted upon, but that doesn't mean that some day it might be a possibility.
Thanks, DG. Yes, it does help in a way. Sometimes it can generate a little mild infatuation or even that excitement of something new. But again, I reign myself back in when I really start thinking it through. It would derail my strategy. At this time, it wouldn't make me a better person. It has the chance of hurting someone else. It's not what I want to be involved in right now. It's not the man I am or the man I'm becoming.
To further complicate matters, my W brought this woman up the night of the bomb. i.e. "You'll probably end up with ___" So, she started it!
Right now, IMO we shouldn't even hang out. We shouldn't get the kids together, etc. Not that there's anything developing with that. I don't want to leave anything at all to chance.
So, she started it! 
