What you said in the email was very sweet. Don't obsess over it. Just learn from it.

I don't think it set you back. I believe I can see how hard it must be to hold the reigns back when your emotions are charging full speed ahead. That's why it's so common for the LBH to over-kill, b/c he's grasping at every straw he sees.

Another difficult thing for you will be to not rescue her. You were verbally soothing her, stroking her hair emotionally, and giving her promises that you have no control over. Yeah, I read all of that into that one little email. smile Tough thing, but if you are not in her life, what or who will she have to do that for her? That is what she needs to realize. What would her life be without you to lean on?

She has to see her loss made by her wrong decisions. It may not hit all at one time, but at some point, she will get her eyes open. I hope it won't be too late.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!