tm - you are spot on. The WAS's are broken and need to address their problems as well.

My parents get very upset with me when I tell them that the stbx stops by the house, or we go out to dinner, etc. They don't want me to get back with her the way she is now.

As much as I love her, I wouldn't go back to what we had unless SHE worked on herself first. I guarantee you that she's not doing the work we are all doing.

Me: 43
W: 37
Together: 18
M: 15
D: 8 yrs old
ILYBNILWY: March 2011
She Filed for D: August 2011
She moved out: Sept 1, 2011
Reconciled: May 2012
Divorce Case dropped: July 2012