She called me his morning crying because she has some problems at work that may cause her to be fired. I listened and was sympathetic. I asked her to let me know what happens. Then I sent her an encouraging email telling her to keep her chin up and it will all be okay.
Here's a goal you can work on. Don't over-do when she seems to be reaching out....or just being nice. You did what was right...."listened and was sympathetic"....then you told her to "let me know what happens". That was an appropriate way to end the call. But then you had to go and add more......and sent her an "encouraging email". Truth is, you hoped she would respond and would open the lines better. That was going too far. That was pursuing. Why couldn't you just leave it to what you said in the phone conversation?
Try working on no over-kill, okay?
I sent her the encouraging text 30 seconds after I hung up the phone with her. She had to hang up because she was pulling into work and was already late. Her boss is a jerk...thus the encouragement. Here is what I sent:
"Keep your chin up. Try not to let her see you sweat. You were late...it happens. I'm sure she's been late before. Try not to worry. It will be okay...I promise."
I really wasn't expecting a reply considering I just got off the phone with her. I'm not trying to argue with you...just trying to give a little more detail to the sitch to see what I could have done better....like leave well enough alone.
