Forgot to add, i think h and i do better when we dont talk about r. Now, i dont know if its unhealthy or ok to play the avoidance game. I dont know if it can make things worse by NOT addressing things...but, things are more peaceful and better when r talks dont go on. We joke, laugh, talk, and enjoy each others company as we did before all this began. He comes closer to me it seems. More hugs..more feelings of a connectedness. As soon as r talks and his feelings anout wanting to be alone ensue...His wall is back up again.
