I wrote on your last thread but will comment here too... I'm so sorry you found out about om. It took me two months to discover that my h was having an ea with a co worker. Luckily, ow moved out of the country because she was tied to a contract for her job. But this has not made the pain any less. Give yourself time...to feel what you need to feel. As i said before...september was horrible for me...i grieved so much. It does get better as time passes...
When h first bd on july 3rd, he didnt want to go to mc. Flat out refused, saying he was done and did not want to be analyzed. He talked strongly about getting his own place, and doing it soon. For most of that month and august he kept that idea at the forefront...and it was so so hard having to hear him talk of leaving this way.
Not sure what changed, but after i confronted about ow, and the fall out that came from it...he changed his mind, and decided to stay and go to mc. If your w is setting her leave date for that many months away...maybe this will allow more time for db, your gal, and your own preparedness. In the meantime...maybe she will change her plans. I'm not meaning to give false hopes, but in my heart i believe anything can happen.
