In case you were not aware, depression is actually a primary factor in MLC... not chronic depression, it's situational to life transitions and therefore present in transitions that become crisis...
If your W does suffer mild to moderate depression in the first place, I do not know how that might play into a transition crisis...
As lot of the DB work, especially regarding more difficult M sitchs, is the 180s...
Many here are all for men "manning up" and owning the traditional values attributed to men...
And also, that we always keep our kids best interests ahead of any personal interests regarding our spouse and the M...
That being said, it might be something for you to look at regarding possible control issues in yourself (not sure if you have a tendency for that), but how you handle things like the Sunday compromise you mention above...
Would you consider that type of compromising as normal behaviour, or is that something of a 180?
Often our spouses complain the reason they lost interest in the M and the LBS is because the LBS "controlled" them... it's their perception, but they truly believe that is the case... whatever we can do to manage healthy boundaries, without crossing the line to controlling, will always be good for US and any R we have, including our M...
