Wrack your brains diagnosing yourself, if your going wrack em on anything. I would recommend taking some time away from either choice, though.. and just sit with your experience to see what you are feeling (as opposed to what you are thinking).
If you don't want to play her games, don't play her games. I don't know if it means disengage - maybe for you, right now, it does. I tend to think that there comes a point where perhaps showing up in an authentic way is going to become far more attractive than a stance of avoiding the WAS.
As far as her parents go - you are free to do what you want, and I would suggest that you pursue it from the perspective of your own integrity and what matters to you.
I would not bring her up, if you did choose to contact them.. perhaps simply acknowledge the degree to which you value YOUR relationship with them as individuals and not as elements of some inseparable aggregate of family members.
M: 32 W: 29 T: 9 Years M: 4 Years I hit rock bottom: 2/11 PA admitted: 4/11 WAW: 5/11 D filed: 6/11 now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.
