I agree with you, Chaos, thanks for the reality check. I have been wracking my brains trying to diagnose my W, I guess, in order to reassure myself that her A and the breakdown of our M was not 100% my fault like she thinks it is. And that my decision to get some space from her crazy train is not a selfish or "immature" one.
I agree with you that a lot of this is situational. Most people who get involved in A's and pursue them, whether BPD, NPD, HPD, whatever, act the exact same way in order to justify what they're doing. She's reading from the same script as everyone else. Right now we're on Act II, Scene IV: "I Can't Stand the Idea That I Can't Control Him Like I Used To So I Will Pull Out Every Weapon I Have To Get Him Back Under My Thumb."
Tomorrow will be the anniversary of the day that we met. We happened to meet each other totally by chance at a comedy show. She sat next to me and we started talking. Next thing you know, I'm spending every night over at her apartment rather than in my dorm room. We used to celebrate this every year as an anniversary of its own.
I have a strong feeling that she will try to get in contact with me tomorrow to "remember the good times." Must not engage. Must get away from her and her power games. She may not like it, but it's not my job to please her anymore.
