Am I blind and/or stupid?

[MrBond]

Well judging from the evidence, your W is having an A, at the very least an EA, in my opinion.

Have you confronted your cousin? What I would do, is present the evidence to your W in a clear, calm manner and ask her for the truth. She'll probably deny it, but you gave her a chance.

Tell her afterwards that you now know what you need to do and leave her hanging. Let her figure out what you mean. Meanwhile, you gather your information from a L concerning your rights. Not saying you need to file, but it's always good to go in prepared because you don't know what kind of reaction she'll give. She'll either immediately apologize or she'll deny anything's going on and try to flip the situation around on you.

What are some issues that she feels she needs to get away from?