I really am asking for some cold hard input from all of you great, caring people. My WAW (since March 2011, lives in same house, three sons) has what she calls a "friend" who just happens to be another guy and is my cousin (no we're not rednecks).
So far:
- she has lied about a weekend in NY (we live in MA) with her girlfriends and actually met my cousin instead
- made weekend trips to his house in PA which she claims are "friends only" trips where she goes to clear her mind
- had an unexplained birth control product found by our 13 yr old son and it just happened to be missing on a weekend she snuck off to my cousin's house. She claims she bought it as a crazy reaction to the pressure she's under.
- a handful of emails was forwarded to me and my oldest son by some unknown person who hacked her email acct. The emails were from my cousin to her and were the kind of mushy loving type emails you don't send to another guys wife unless you're interested.
- in one 90-day period 361 secret phonecalls were made between the two of them averaging 2 hrs per day, and this is still going on.
She claims that in her current emotional upheaval (think a major MLC), he is someone she comfortable talking too and needs the companionship.
I have been very good about doing all of the DB techniques once I figured out what they were and how they applied, but this seems to be too much of a stretch to accept her explanation. I feel like such a chump living in the same house as her while this goes on. My sons are disgusted by her actions as well, esp. with her spending all her time with my cousin and all family life all but abandoned by her.
At times I am attempted to belive her explanation about my cousin but my gut tells me I'm so in love and want our M that I am blind and stupid.
