I would hate to think that she really is this type of person.
Then don't... but the choice, is yours...
Psycho analyzing our spouses is dangerous for all parties, at best. But IF we need answers AND we've stood for as long as we can bare AND we have made MANY positive changes in ourselves to become as good a person as we can at the time... then how one comes to their choices is up to them...
Sadly, the articles on the site you listed regarding Borderline... they horribly resonate within me, as well... anyone who is dealing with ANY mental / emotional disorder... wow... I so empathize with them...
But this process... DBing and standing... it takes time... it takes a long, long time... at least relative to what we think we can handle... on a time frame that is probably different than we'd like...
It is said that a person in MLC shows many emotional disorders within... and fairly... every human has the potential to display emotional disorder tendencies sometime in their life...
So the really big question to anyone who is seeking answers which are not forthcoming is...
How does that affect your stand?
And a subset question is...
How do you feel about that decision?
IOW, don't stand or walk because of information... or because of feedback from others... or any other extraneous influence...
Stand or walk because YOU made the choice and you feel good about that choice...
And course correct from there... even if you eventually choose the opposite... and then be good with that choice...
