Gunny, the only times I perceived cracks in STBX’s resolve was when I successfully implemented what GB90 suggests. Here are a couple of things from my experience.
Just as we were able to distinguish between a CS and a Smoke during a simulated gas attack the WAS will be able to determine between really moving on and a strategy. Also do you remember how it eventually became just another CS grenade or just another trip through the gas chamber?
If it is real she will not need you to “show it to her” as she’ll perceive it in time. What she does, how she acts then is totally her responsibility b/c you are not using a strategy.
Another aspect of moving forward toward moving on is I no longer have a great deal of concern over reconciling. Early on it consumed me; now it is up to her indicate she if wishes to and up to me to decide if I am receptive.
Knowing you will be fine, that your life will be what you make it that you are in control of your actions leading to your destiny reduces the anxiety permitting you to deal with this situation analytically. The roller coaster ride is no longer as thrilling.
Gunny………. Once, Always!
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BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
