I started reading DR again, my head was in such a fog and I was looking for a quick fix that I didn't fully comprehend everything.
One thing that I am having trouble with is looking for positive signs that what I am doing is working. I have never been good at accepting compliments or looking at positive signs. I've always looked at the big picture. That's one thing I am working hard on. So, how do I know?
Here's an example: Yesterday was my day to get the kids from my spouse. So the night before I text messages their mom and asked them a good time to meet up and swap the kids. She said she was having a slumber party for my daughter and asked if it could be around 11. I told her that we could make it noon. I then asked if out neighbor's kid was spending the night, which she was. I then asked my spouse if maybe she could send the kids home with my neighbor as it would me out a lot. She said she would ask.
9:45 the next morning she said that she and the kids were on their way. I figured that she was taking the neighbor's kid home so she would just drop the kids off. She did not take the neighbor's kid home. So she did this of her own free will. She came in the house and I showed the kids their new room that I painted and I added rope light to their bed so it glows. They were excited and my spouse told me how good it looked. She abruptly took off as if she was In a hurry. she always said I pointed out everything negative she does, so I've been trying to find positive things to point out. So I sent her a text that said' " thank you very, very much for bringing the kids over. I really appreciate it". A few minutes later she replied with' " welcome:)". Generally her responses are short (such a "K" "thx") if at all. I think the smiley face may indicate that my thank you may have made her feel good. I'm worried about reading too much into anything.
I keep my communication to a minimum, but I do send her an email or call her if it's important. She generally never replies to either.
What would be some other positive signs to look for?
