Wife no longer in love with me - Part 4

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"She said again yesterday that if we had gone to counseling in may last year we would have saved this."

I'm not buying that, and you shouldn't, either. She's throwing more blame on your shoulders. What stopped her from going to IC herself?

Cam, I understand your feelings of loss and that you have lost a part of you. Let those emotions wash over you but also understand that you let yourself become very codependent on her. The only course of action you can take now is to work hard at becoming an independent person again. Try not to idolize her or think that you will never be happy again. It's a slow and often agonizing process, but at some point you will begin to see your life without her and it will not be misery.