IS, I think you know what you need to do. It sound like you really need to back off. Like 25 is essentiallly telling you, don't believe what your W is telling at face value. It goes along with the believe none of what they say and 50% of what they do.
If your W moves out, it does cut both ways. However, you may actually feel some relief. You will really have a good opportunity to spend some quality time with your S.
