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[learning2listen]

I think confused is the most likely. If i take everything that has been said and not just the negative or the positive, I think he expected more out of his life by this point and is depressed that we have basically nothing. I was financially sound when we met and his income was not needed to maintain the household, therefore when he decided to quit a job he could, now that I do not make as much money and the kids need more I have taken on a second job. He says he was always alone so why not just be alone. He does not take responiblity well, but yet he feels like he does. My career issues have been a huge blow to my ego, and I know I seem insecure.. he does not like that. Also all he seems to do is work and sleep. He sleeps so much it seems unhealthy. 4 years ago we got into a huge fight, my friend and business partner was there and called the police, she was worried about my safety and he was arrested. He says that he resents me for this, even though I stood by his side through the entire ordeal. His parents had to pay for the legal fees and I think this embarassed him. He has said he trusts noone. I didnt realize this included me. until now. I have had no contact with this former friend and have given my h no reason to believe I would betray him however his mind works different and if he has it in his head that I was the enemy I dont think I will ever change that. Right before he dropped the bomb on me I had heard that he had an affair with one of my other friends during the whole court ordeal. I didnt believe it, but I did tell him about it, he said right as he was leaving that, that was the straw that broke the camels back.. Another one of my friends ruining his life. But why is he angry with me, and is that really the problem or is it the financial problem? Why wont he just talk to me? I am so confused? does our family mean nothing? do all the years and good words between us get negated for something one of my friends did? I am lost!~