I am loosing my mind

[25yearsmlc]

After two months I want to start asking questions again as far as where do we stand and where are you at right now but I know that's wrong to do.

Then don't do it. You are getting several positive signs that your DB efforts are helping. Most LBSers would give an arm to hear an ILY from their spouse.

My advice is to be quiet, and to put it more bluntly, shut up. Be patient. 2 months? Really? That seems long to you? Check out my signaure block for a real time frame.

I'm also a veteran myself (if you can't beat 'em, join 'em) and m to a vet, who is now in the Reserves preparing for a deployment - which you and I both know will sukk....lost a brother in Afghanistan and have another one there now.

I get it....but ours is not the first generation to have this occur and to be honest, the 6-7k we've lost is about a day's worth from WWII and a tenth of how many we lost in Vietnam. Yes it still hurts...but get some perspective and realize that people like my fil (3 tours in Vietnam as a Marine) got through it, and though he did have some issues, he doesn't NOW.

If she sees you working on that, who knows? She may decide you are changing back to the man you once were.

What did SHE SAY when she wanted out? What are the issues you are working on in you?

Since the bottom line is that
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she has to believe m to you can be better and different than before-so

what's different in YOU?

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She keeps sending mixed signals about her possibly regretting this decision which makes me want to ask.

This ^^^ is GOOD NEWS. Do not ask. Let her tell you. Sounds like she's trying to...back off and let her come to you.

Why is it that when DBing is clearly working, we want to turn over the apple cart and get it all now!?? Screws us up every time...be patient...way more patient.

Let the process continue to work.


I am so lost it messes up the whole DB process

well...don't let it.

You can do this.