seeking answers, thankyou my sweet, I have never been one for turning my back on friends and family or anyone for that matter. I class aunt as my own family really, at least she as me and my son.xx
well folks here I am lurking in the background, just an update to say old aunt got rushed back into hospital on sunday last, ex has phoned the hospital to see what's what, has he visited his old aunt, no he hasn't, guilt must be really eating at this guy now, its a shame to think that he is going to let his old aunt lay there poorly and eventually pass away and he isnt going to be grown up enough to go lay the past to rest and make up before the inevitable happens. ah well on his head not on mine, regards
Hi all just to let you all know I am still here lol, having fun plenty of holidays and partying out with friends, myself and son have just got back from a break away and go again in four weeks, woohoo I am actually starting to love this single life. nothing from ex to son or old aunt, never mind lol xxxxx
Good for you and your son! Enjoy your lives. Lord knows, you'e been put through a lot the last few years. I'm glad both of you are doing well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hey Mandy ... glad to hear you're having fun. I'll be in Germany next month ... looking forward to it.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Saw your post in another thread ML--glad you are doing well. I think your X is a stubborn one, and maybe they never really come out of it, in some cases, but I think that some of them do.
I have a hard time imagining what it must be like for your X to see S as a young man. I hope their R has improved.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Hi forward, sorry for not replying I only bob on the boards every now and again. As I have just posted on another thread and am also gonna post here, something that dawned on me the other day, x left in june 2005, he has not really bothered with son in all that time apart from one occasion of a three month period, and another occasion after 2 and half years he contacted son for around 9 months, up to the present day and ex has not contacted or seen son for nearly two years again, when ex walked out son was a mere child of ten years old, he is now a strapping young man of 17 years old, on his birthday this year ex sent a card, in it he wrote for son to call him should he wish, sons response to that was why should he be the one to contact, he also stated that there are more than two days in a year, ie birthday and christmas, a child is for life not just for two glory days, I do not see son contacting ex at all now after all he says he gave him a chance to rectify himself and ex did not take that chance, I think it is all done and dusted now. ex continues to be married to the skank, whether he is stuck in the relationship because he has nowhere to go or merely due to the fact that he is in fact living his life with her and not contacting his only offspring one does not know, all I find and sometimes worry about is how can you give up your only child and not think about them or contact them for so long, it is knocking on 7 years plus now, and all in all ex has only bothered with son for about a year out of all that time, beats me xxx
Also have to add as I find this quite amusing, I am on a social networking site and I have seen a quote from the skank to a relation of hers, the relation is having trouble from her ex husband regards the kids etc,,,, the skank has quoted "he never supported you when you were married to him, he doesn't support you now, maybe if he had a brain he would help you financially and support his kids and also spend QUALITY time with them", well hello, should she not be letting her husband ie the father of my child know how she feels, instead she won't let my ex and son have a relationship neither will she allow ex to fund his child as he should, two faces of the witch I presume
Mandy, I am sorry that your son's father has not kept in touch or supported him. Some day, most likely on his death bed, he will regret the way things have gone down. Your son is a very wise young man and you've been there for him through thick and thin. Your son will always remember that.
As for your "X", he will remain married to the skank because it is easier to do so rather than live on his own and actually grow up. The skank is most likely a mother figure to him and that's what he needs because he is a child in many ways.
As for her comments on the network, what a piece of work. If that doesn't take the cake, nothing will.
Mandy, you are doing a great job in being there for your son. I do hope that you and your son are doing well. Please stay in touch.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi snodderly, myself and son are doing brilliantly thankyou, I really hope you are well also. son is in his second year at college and becoming quite a young man in so many ways, he has come on in leaps and bounds after his knock backs from his father, I have to admit that it all took its toll on son and he lost rather a lot of education because of this, however he is back on the right path now and flourishing, I am a proud mum, I have a lovely son and I am sure that he will be there for me as I have been for him, as for his father well that is a different story, son really does not want to be bothered with his father, in his own words his father screwed his head up once he is not going to get chance to screw it up again xxxx
I'll be in Germany next month ... looking forward to it.