CTH: No - I did not read it wrong. Read your post about XW and the control of the electronics. Might have been a typo or a Freudian slip but I still believe you let XW control more of the decisions on behaviour, consequence and discipline when you need a united front. It ties in with the "blaming" of her for what is happening.
I get that. I used to blame x all the time. But the truth is - it did not help things.
I have "been there, done that" and made as many mistakes as anyone else here. Just trying to share some insight from my scars.
