YBR, It's always good to have someone who has reconciled return and share w/the posters.
I am still a firm believer in sitting quietly and the answers will fall into your lap. We tend to forget that when new posters arrive here that they have not walked the yellow brick road long enough to understand that nothing you do will change the course of a MLCer. It takes time, patience, understanding, and detachment from the MLCers drama in order to see more clearly. It takes time for the LBS to understand that the focus needs to be turned towards themselves and their families while their MLCers are off playing in OZ. Detachment and no contact are for the LBS. Changes should be made for the LBS and not as an attempt to sway the MLCer to return home. MLCers have a sixth sense about changes and will test the LBS time and time again to see if they can trip them up. Changes have to be permanent and the LBS must be happy w/the changes that they made.
I am very glad to see that things turned around for you and you returned to post.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
