Just read your post on IB's thread. I hope this makes you smile: A good friend of mine has a really crazy MLcer, and it is now 4+ years on, and they talk on the phone. Recently he said to her ' You have got yourself together after all this [as if the MLC was an act of God, rather than stemming from his actions] The tone was rather resentful, because the guy knows now he is a mess, and stuck in a totally dysfunctional relationship which he is terrified to leave, but desperately wants to . . . . .
So the strong likelihood is that at some point reality will hit your xh. The evidence is that it is hitting mine, slowly, slowly, and he is dashing around trying to be friends again with his kids. He can't quite see that a few lunches and theatre trips aren't really a catch up for 6 years absence but that is MLC for you!
Rip van Winkle, as they say. We have all changed and moved on.
