Valeria, I am reading your posts with interest, you and I have been at this around the same timeframe, me I jumped off the rollercoaster ride, no longer standing and havent for some time. I have to say to yourself and to Beatrice that yes you are correct this mlc is a sucker and it doesnt take a couple of years to get over or grieve the loss of the marriage, on the whole it took me at least until the five year mark to realise enough is enough and move on fully, it is evident my ex is not ever coming back, he as been at this nor for some 7 years plus, my main problem and hurdle that I will never ever get over is the non contact from the ex to his only child, throughout the time he has been gone I can honestly say except for a couple of touch and gos of around 6 months each time, that ex just does not want to know his son, he walked out the door and walked away and just abandoned his son. He had the cheek to send son a birthday card back in august and managed to write on the bottom for son to call him if he wanted, sons answer was whats the point, he doesnt call me and there are more than two days in a year, ie birthday and christmas, so ex has done his own poisoning of his only child and I do not ever see that bridge being re-built now
